Marietta Mehanni

Which stage of the 4-step Group Ex journey are you in?

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Written by Marietta

August 5, 2021

I have always enjoyed passing on things that I have learnt. I’m hardwired for it. I remember in school that I would often help other students understand homework and provide assistance during recess and lunchtime in the library. It gave me purpose, and sharing what I had learnt felt good.

Fast forward to my twenties, as a young aerobics instructor, this trait persisted. I would frequently find myself helping other instructors gain the work experience required to attain a certificate of completion. I didn’t have a name for what I was doing in those days, but later, as I formalised the working relationship and added structure to it, it became clear that I was offering mentoring.

The stages of growth and development

As a mentor, workshop and course presenter and group fitness coordinator, I began to notice behavioural patterns in instructors that corresponded with the amount of experience they had. On reflection, I also recognised it in myself. I call it the stages of growth and development. Some instructors move through the stages naturally, whereas others drop out or get stuck in a stage.

Interestingly, I realised that these stages are not specific to the careers of group exercise instructors but are similar to the four stages of wisdom in the Indian and yogic traditions. ‘The stages are that of the student, the householder, the wise elder and renunciant, which is also called the sanyasi in Sanskrit’ writes Debra Molfitt, the author of Awake in the World: 108 Practices to Live a Divinely Inspired Life.

In a paper written by Allen Evans of Eastern Oregon University, titled ‘Four Stages and Four Wisdom Lessons: Harry Potter and the Male Spiritual Journey’, Evans articulates the journey of boy wizard Harry Potter in much the same way:

‘A general definition of “spirituality” is presented, followed by an explanation and discussion of four distinct stages of the “male spiritual journey:” (1) the student stage, (2) the householder stage, (3) the seeker/forest dweller stage, and (4) the sage/elder stage. Each stage is accompanied by a particular “spiritual wisdom lesson.”’

OK, Harry Potter may be an unusual example, but the stages discussed by Evans in his paper are very similar to those studied by the Swiss psychologist Carl Gustav Jung. And according to Jung, there are four archetypes, four stages of life: the Athlete Stage, The Warrior Stage, The Statement Stage and The Stage of the Spirit.

Time and again, four key stages. The stages of growth and development as a group exercise instructor follow the same trajectory, and this is how I have classified them:

  1. The Wide-Eyed Instructor
  2. The Self-Confident Instructor
  3. The Knowledge Seeker Instructor
  4. The Yoda of Instructors.

Please permit me to share my observations.

The Wide-Eyed Instructor

You are a new instructor in the industry. This stage has nothing to do with the age at which you start teaching and everything to do with your enthusiasm for learning and absorbing as much as possible. Knowing everyone has more experience, and you are learning on your feet. You look for role models, ways to improve and need reassurance from your participants that you are on the right track.

This stage usually lasts for between one and two years.

The Self-Confident Instructor

You have found your rhythm with preparing, delivering and interacting with your participants. Have developed confidence and an appreciation of your power as an instructor, often get good feedback and are in high demand to teach classes. However, this is also the stage where a sense of entitlement can arise.

You are aware, for example, that you can wield your power to galvanise participants into action if you are unhappy about a management decision. Instructors in this stage can often blur the line of professionalism, and some will never move on from it. This stage can last for between two and five years.

The Knowledge Seeker Instructor

Transitioning from the previous stage to this one usually requires some discomfort. You may have lost classes due to class attendance or program changes, had some challenging interactions with participants or tried to teach a class you didn’t gel with. This is when you realise you don’t know everything and open your mind to further education.

You may pursue a new format or want to learn another skill, but you are on a pathway to learn more. This stage usually starts around the five-year mark and can continue for the rest of your career.

The Yoda of Instructors

You know that you have reached this stage when the following happens.

  1. Nothing rocks your boat too much. Timetable changes, disgruntled participants and negative feedback are things you consider but don’t play on your mind. Knowing that this will always happen and any discomfort will pass. Tomorrow is another day.
  2. You are sought out for advice and mentorship and regarded as a go-to person for information. Having seen the good, bad and ugly and taught so many classes that nothing surprises you. Usually, in this stage, you have taught a time slot for several years and intimately know your participants. There is a level of trust among your participants, other instructors and even management in your knowledge and sage advice.
  3. You will deepen your knowledge in specific areas and perhaps take on education that requires diligent study to apply it in the classes that you teach directly or expand what you offer to your participants.

In a recent presentation, I shared this information with the participating instructors. While self-identifying the stages that best represented them, some commented that they often bounced between stages. This, however, is not something that can happen. You can’t go from being a Self-Confident Instructor to The Yoda of Instructors and back again. It’s about progression, not regression. Perhaps these are examples of Self-Confident Instructors believing they are at a higher level than they are.

The key is understanding that this is a pathway you will move along as you mature. It is a gradual process, not without discomfort, but that’s OK because growing pains prove you are growing.

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  1. Awesome thoughts Marietta.
    I’m self-analysing …..

  2. So true. I am a new aqua instructor and fit right into the first stage. I always find your words helpful, inspiring and informative. Thank you for keeping me grounded.

    • I am glad that you found my words helpful, inspiring, and informative. It’s great to hear that you have found your place as a new aqua instructor and that my words have helped to keep you grounded. Keep up the good work!


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