Marietta Mehanni

My secret

My secret blog

Written by Marietta

April 10, 2020

I received an email asking about my secret to maintaining positivity and showing up on Facebook daily. So, I’m going to share my answer with you all.

I feel that mental health is very similar to physical health. If we think about physical health, we ensure that our bodies get good nutrition and move regularly. In the fitness industry, we also focus on aspects of fitness and want to see improvements in those areas, e.g. strength, balance, flexibility, endurance (muscle and cardio) and range of motion. But it is also about having an overall balance so that we are not consumed by nutrition or training so much that we lose perspective.

I think mental health is very similar, requiring as much attention and concentrated effort as keeping our bodies healthy. The problem is that most people pay little attention to this aspect of themselves. And then, just like poor health, it catches up with us eventually, especially in a crisis.

So what is my secret?


Every day, I meditate for approximately 20 minutes. It took time to get to a point where I could do it for this long every day. Lately, I have added another meditation in the middle of the day.

·  Immediate effects of meditation are a more relaxed mind than before.

·  Short-term effects are that I have been able to concentrate and focus better.

· Long-term effects (I have been doing it for 12 years) is feeling detached.

Now, this is something that most people do not understand until they experience it. It doesn’t mean I don’t have empathy or experience a range of emotions. It means I don’t get to despair or depression and experience fear, and there is an underlying feeling that everything will be okay. Trust me, I did not use to feel this way, and every day was an emotional roller coaster, which was incredibly draining. Detachment provides the mental space to view the world and have a conscious mind that can decide from what is happening around me. This mental state is ‘unconditional’. Being unconditional means that (despite everything happening around me) I don’t react but can maintain a relaxed and satisfied or happy state. I know deep down that everything is going to be okay. This is the long-term effect of meditation.


Every day, I journal about what makes me happy and what is going well in my life. This process helps strengthen our mental muscles that we often fail to improve. I have been doing this for nine years, and it has helped me when drama happens. When I have drama, it is often short-lived. Focusing on drama brings more drama. I can feel my energy shift when I switch my thoughts to something that makes me laugh. Sure enough, if I am frustrated with something, my computer doesn’t work, I burn my dinner, and I accidentally hit myself on a shelf and on and on it goes. Then the words’ nothing is going right’ come out of my mouth. No, I created all of that. The key is to recognise when my thoughts are changing to not such great thoughts and find a way to shift them. That doesn’t stop me from losing my shit… that happens, but I then notice (meditation also helps) and focus to shift the energy. Journaling helps with this.

Feed your mind

Read and listen to things that feed my mind. This is like nutrition for the brain. Being around people with lower energy, listening to the news, reading the newspaper, or even reading a rant on social media is like junk food. A little bit occasionally is okay, but it should not be your daily diet. I listen to awesome audiobooks about self-improvement, CDs in my car about personal development, and read a book daily that will help me grow. My only junk food is TV, and I watch what I want; that is my little bit of junk food. When I see a rant on social, I will not read it. It is only someone’s opinion (which they are entitled to), but I don’t have to buy into it or agree.


I get this every two weeks. Oddly, sharing with your family and close friends is not always healthy. They will give you an answer that serves them. It is natural. We all do it. Counselling is different because you are sitting in front of someone with no personal vested interest in you, and they are there to listen and make you think with questions. You always come up with solutions and see things differently, but you must be guided. It is like a group fitness instructor or personal trainer. Someone with more knowledge and experience can refer you to a mental shift. Talking about stuff in front of someone paid to listen is very different from bombarding a friend who has their stuff going on. I always felt guilty about dumping my bullshit on someone else, and even though it might have felt good at the moment, it didn’t later. My counsellor is someone I trust and has helped me navigate some tricky times with authenticity, integrity and honesty.

Mental Resilience takes time

This has trained me to recognise thoughts as being just that – thoughts. If I focus on them long enough, they become beliefs, and my life follows my beliefs. I have written down what I want my life to be – happy. And I have written down what happiness looks and feels like. I can now say, having suffered from depression and eating disorders for most of my life, that I am happy. Even now. But it took training, lots and lots of training. It didn’t happen overnight, but I saw a change with only one week of meditation.

All of this trains mental resilience. I can fall off the rails for a bit when a crisis hits, but then I see opportunities. They usually come in my meditations. And then there is the wow moment. Holy Cow, Batman! This is such a great opportunity to… and away I go. 

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  1. Marieta, great article. I like to read Your texts. I’m not meditating, but I like to take yoga classes, for me it’s not real meditation, but it helps me to balance my body and mind After a hard day, lots of Zumba Classes.

    • I’m so glad you enjoyed my article! It’s great that you find my writing engaging and informative. Yoga is a wonderful practice for both the body and mind, and it sounds like it helps you find balance after a hard day. And Zumba classes are also a great way to release stress and have fun. Keep up the good work and keep exploring different ways to take care of your body and mind. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts!

  2. You are an inspiration. I have often wondered about what not only keeps you going ,but also empowers you to progress with new ideas.

  3. Wow Marietta. Your openess, honesty and ideas are so refreshing. We all need encouragement in various ways to help the mind overcome negativity.
    I always feel that I don’t have the the time to meditate. You are an inspiration to change that!

  4. It reinforces that life,to be fulfilled, is a journey. I am heading off this week to a 6day silent meditation retreat. Just quietness and our own mind. Highly recommend it. Silence makes us stronger. I love that you meditate. It can be hard,and takes practice. Some days are diamonds. Some days are stones. I am,however,a long way from enlightenment! Meditation in a physical world brings balance. And in my mind,we are in a constant state of evolution. Meditation makes us better instructors!! 💦🌺💦

    • Hi Bronwyn, Thanks for sharing your thoughts on meditation and the importance of taking time for reflection and self-improvement. I agree that meditation can be challenging, but with practice, it can bring significant benefits to our personal and professional lives. I love the idea of a silent meditation retreat 💜 and hope it brought you the balance and clarity you seek. Keep on the path of evolution!

  5. I loved reading this Marietta. We all suffer from our struggles & it’s very brave of you to post yours. I still get some great aqua tips from you, but trying to cut down & eventually retire, so not needing any more courses. Thanks for all your help over the years x

    • Hi Maureen, Thank you so much for reading my post and for your kind words. I really appreciate it! I’m glad to hear that my struggles resonated with you, and I am so happy to hear that my aqua tips have helped you over the years. It’s great to hear that you are cutting down on the aqua tips and trying to retire. I hope you will have the best time on your new journey. Thank you for all your support and encouragement over the years. It means a lot to me.

  6. Marietta I agree with every word. So good explained and sincere! You are a genuine gift in my life! and so many more!!!!

    • Dearest Mushi, I am truly touched by your words and humbled that my writing has had such a positive impact on you. It brings me immense joy to know that my words are connecting with others. Thank you for being a part of my journey, your continued support and encouragement mean the world to me.


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